Comments on: Pay No Attention to the Melancholy Behind the Curtain…

By: deb sargent

deb sargent — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 08:45:19 +0000

The lost of a love one , the memories are still there. I lost mom over 30yrs ago, dad back in Dec 05, grandma went in July 07 and now , just this week I learn that my Aunt has joined them.

The pain is fresh with the latest, but I have the memories of mom as if it were yesterday. The only regret I have is being so far away and unable to be there, but am there in spirit.
.-= deb sargent´s lastest bit of awesomeness: Looking forward to Vacation =-.

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Wed, 17 Jun 2009 06:34:51 +0000

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By: jewels

jewels — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 00:28:38 +0000

You know in a few more ways then one I can say I know how you feel, well, at least understand it anyway. One can never truly understand how another feels.

Anyway, I ‘lost’ my granny almost 10 years ago. She was only 75 at the time. She lived through raising her 8 children mainly on her own since my grandfather had died when he was only 46 years old. She lived through so many things, you wouldn’t think she would go so young. I still have 1 granny left and get to do it all over again. *sigh* I also *lost* my other grandpa 14 years ago. I still miss him each and everyday. I visit him often though, he’s underneath that big pine only 10 minutes from my house.

The cancer creep, oh yes, I know that one well. It hit our happy home almost 3 years ago. Our outcome didn’t result in a loss but we feel it’s affects each and every day. Our lives went from one extreme of normalcy to something so very different.

I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m here for you too. Much love and many hugs to you.

By: Tara R.

Tara R. — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 21:40:11 +0000

I do know how you feel. I’ve ‘lost’ each of my grandparents. It’s difficult to imagine not going to Grandma’s for Sunday dinner, or fishing with Grandpa in the summer, visiting V and Mo at Christmas. It feels so odd not being able to just pick up a phone. I’m so sorry for your loss too.

By: Judith Shakespeare

Judith Shakespeare — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 21:37:46 +0000

Thank you, all of you. I appreciate all of your love and friendship!

By: Mary

Mary — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 20:03:21 +0000

I am so sorry, Courtney. Thinking of you.

By: Qweenie

Qweenie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:44:23 +0000

It will get easier but that melancholy never really goes all the way “away”……..

My grandfather who helped raise me, died when I was 16…….he was 59 and at work when he was suddenly struck down by a fatal heart attack. I was devastated. After 16 years it is still a wound that is quite raw……. just last week I thought I saw his truck at Walmart and I started to cry, my husband thought I was nuts (they never quite understand anything do they)…..

So what I’m saying is….. I get it and if you want to talk about it, you have my number and I am here for you 24/7!

*smooch*

By: Momo Fali

Momo Fali — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 16:58:27 +0000

The last of my grandparents died in 1998. I was 27 years old and pregnant with my first child. It breaks my heart that they never met my kids. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

By: angie

angie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 14:47:58 +0000

I wish I didn’t know what it’s like to “lose” someone before your ready. But I do. And since I do. I am sending all kind of comfort vibes and a virtual hug your way. ((((((((((((((((((((((Courtney)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

By: Sandy

Sandy — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 14:32:11 +0000

I know how you feel. I felt that way about my step mother. She was also a smoker. She also had cancer. She died when I needed her most…right before my 15th birthday…20 days before it in fact. She was more like a mother to me than my own mother, I loved her more than my own mother. There are many times over the years that I needed her advice and words of wisdom and she wasn’t there to give them to me. Not her fault, but I needed her none the less.

By: rachel

rachel — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:24:52 +0000

Aw hell honey. This was beautiful and hit home so hard right now. Being here with Granny and watching her ‘slip’ away, seeing only brief glimpses of her in the eyes struggling through the dementia and the drugs…

This was so beautifully written, I expect nothing less from you.
Lots of love doll. I’ll be driving home tomorrow afternoon, maybe I can ring you.
Love, hugs and support darlin’. I feel your pain, I truly do.

You can always call me if you want to, for no reason at all.

By: Donna

Donna — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:07:50 +0000

I’m so very sorry to hear about your grandmother’s death. I lost my granny last week. She was 82. To my way of thinking much too young to go.

She was my step-grandmother and I didn’t realize that I’d miss her like I do, but it’s just hard because as you said, they’re supposed to be around, be invincible… to be here until we’re done with them and learned all we can from them. Melancholy is a good word for what I’m feeling.

So, I’ll tell you what… I’ll send you cyber hugs and support if you’ll promise to do the same.

By: Maria

Maria — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 02:49:50 +0000

I really don’t know what to say. But I’m thinking of you.

By: Secret Agent Mama

Secret Agent Mama — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 02:34:47 +0000

It’s so hard for me to find words to say to you b/c I still have my grandmother here and I fear that someday I’ll be writing a post like this. Just know that you are in my thoughts during this time of melancholy. ((HUGS))